How do you build confidence day to day?

Confidence is something you practice, not something you have. Most people think they need to feel confident before they act, but it works the other way around: confidence is built after action. Each time you recover, speak up, or move forward before you feel completely ready, you build evidence that you can trust yourself.

What are the four ways to think about confidence?

Dr. Cindra Kamphoff, author of The Confidence Habit, describes confidence in four ways: a feeling, a decision, a belief, and a skill. The feeling of confidence can change from moment to moment, but confidence as a belief and a skill goes much deeper.

What is Learn-Burn-Return?

Learn-Burn-Return is a three-step tool from The Confidence Habit for protecting your confidence after a mistake or setback. Learn: ask, "What would I do differently next time?" and take the lesson with you. Burn: quickly let go of the judgment, using a phrase like "Burn it," "Shake it off," or "Flush it," or a physical gesture. Return: bring your attention back to the present, rebuild your confidence, and take the next controllable step.

How do you bounce back from a mistake or setback?

Look at what happened objectively, take the lesson with you, let go of the judgment, and take the next controllable step. As Dr. Kamphoff puts it, you are not the mistake: mistakes are what you do, never who you are.

Do women struggle more with confidence than men?

In the National Research Study on Confidence cited by Dr. Cindra Kamphoff, women scored lower than men across every marker of confidence measured. Women were more likely to experience a harsh inner critic, feel "not enough," compare themselves to others, and report that fear holds them back.

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Here's something I learned recently, and it kind of stung: my people-pleasing tendencies weren't a quirky personality trait because I'm "just so accommodating and nice." They were actually a reflection of my lack of confidence. Oof. Gonna speed-dial my therapist now. 🫠

The good news is that confidence is something you can practice. This week's expert, mental performance coach Dr. Cindra Kamphoff, shares how.

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